Your fears may be the tip of the iceberg, a clue to what you are really worried about. I once knew a young boy who was afraid to go to school. It turned out that the boy was not afraid of going to school but of leaving his grandmother. The young boy had experienced several losses at a young age, first his mother, father, grandfather and most recently his uncle. He convinced himself, if he left his grandmother she would also die.

Are your fears real ( False Evidence Appearing Real) or are they camouflaged to hide the real problem you must face. Ask yourself, why am I really afraid, what is the deeper issue? Just by probing beneath the surface it may offer a clue to the root cause and enable you to expose and confront the fear.

“You must stick to your conviction, but be ready to abandon your assumptions.”

Dense Waitley

• What Assumptions do I operate under that hold me back?
• What is the source of these Assumptions?
• What have I learned about myself as a result of these Assumptions?
• Is there a negative side of these Assumptions?
• Is the positive side of these Assumptions?
• What steps do I need to take to make my Assumptions a reality?

 

Find a friend that share your interest to be your accountability partner or better yet get an Accountability Coach. Did I mention I am an Accountability Coach? Exchange numbers and/or email and set a date to check up on each other. Sometimes just knowing you have someone checking up on you can make a difference. Also those days when you feel like giving up, your Accountability Coach will provide encouragement and support to get you through those difficult days. So, call me to day if you need that extra accountability to help make your dreams come true.

 

 

“Ask for Help!“

 

Here’s an excerpt from “How to Ask for Help from People You Respect”  by Matthew Alexander Sloane

Matthew states in his article, there’s a lot of fear that comes up when I’m about to ask for help.

• What if they say “no” to my request?
• What if they ignore my request?
• What if they see my request as a waste of time?

If you can identify with any of these answers take time today and read his article it may HELP.

How to ask for help from people you respect.

Which side of your “Why” is prompting you to change?  What is  getting you energized and ready for action? Use the energy behind the “Why” to drive your dreams.

Positive “Why”

• I enjoy teaching people
• I want to buy “XYZ”
• Extra money
• etc.

Negative “Why”

• Lose weight because of health problems
• Lost home
• For someone else
• No money
• etc.

 

 

 

Learn to Schedule Your Time

You’ll be able to get everything done and you’ll feel less pressured.

• For the next few days, write down everything you do and the time you spend doing each activity.
• At the end of the week, tally up the time you spent doing each activity.
• Can you make better use of your time?